Too much family togetherness in a confined space without opportunity to escape? One of the downsides to the road trip.

Squabbles. Fights. Arguments. Tiffs. Complaints. Accusations of “she won’t share” or “he’s touching me” fill the air. Raw nerves and buttons pushed. Until finally Dad reaches his breaking point and yells “If I have to pull this car over on the side of the road, …”

Now, before you blame it all on the kids, the front seat has its share of problems too. Navigation errors, restaurant choices, and music selection can become hot topics when muscles are cramped and sleep is deprived.

What about life? There are times we’re going to get irritated with our fellow travelers. And, yes, they are going to get irritated with us. So what can we do about it?

First, try to understand why this bothers us so much. Are we tired, sick, or stressed? Have we dealt with this problem repeatedly with little visible progress? Is the other person’s opinion important to us? Is this an attack on our possessions, values or worth? Or, is this just the last straw on a very bad day?

Second, evaluate if we’ve done anything to make the issue worse. Has our response been appropriate, logical, or necessary? Have our words or actions been misunderstood? Have we misunderstood them?

Third, weigh our options and choose. Clear the air. Mediation. Time. Distance. Turn the other cheek. Give a quiet answer. Ask for forgiveness. Forgive. Pray for. Speak the truth in love.

Will these steps solve every backseat conflict? I wish. But, they’re a start.

What about you? How do you solve the backseat squabbles of life?

Road Trip – Squabbles
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5 thoughts on “Road Trip – Squabbles

  • October 21, 2009 at 7:41 am

    >Rent a new dvd out that everyone wants to watch and put it on in the van. Works like a charm, every time!

  • October 21, 2009 at 8:12 am

    >Check my own attitude.

    Blessings and prayers, andrea

  • October 21, 2009 at 11:18 am


    A lot of times I find the issues that are bugging me are with me and not with others around me. I ask God to help me see what the underlying issue is, anxiety, fear, impatience and then just deal with those so everyone has a better time. .

    Love and Hugs ~ Kat

  • October 21, 2009 at 11:24 pm

    >Wonderful post! I'm dealing with a backseat squabble right now. I really want to just get out of the car, but I'm going to deal with it instead.

  • October 22, 2009 at 9:21 am

    >I just found your blog and feel like you are reading my mind! I generally make sure to have snacks on hand (especially for trips longer than 30 minutes) especially for my 10 year old son for whom an empty stomach will explode into all kinds of bickering with his sisters.

    Great post!

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