I desperately need a date. Soon.

A date with my husband. No kids allowed. Just the two of us connecting over a meal away from the distractions and demands of our crazy household. No sibling squabbles to interrupt our conversation or concentration. Time away from the pressures and demands so we can evaluate how things are going and share our dreams. Time away from the television, phone, and computer so we can remember the reasons why we picked each other.

Oh, I need a date. But I’m having trouble finding time on our crowded calendar. With my husband’s work schedule, evenings and weekends are our only options. Baseball practices and games eat up three evenings a week. A 6th grade choir concert. Youth group meetings and church. Track practice on Saturday mornings. Kindergarten graduation. My writer’s group meeting. Maybe Saturday night? Nope. An out-of-town baseball tournament this weekend.

Maybe once school gets out for the summer? I can only hope.

I’ve heard of people who regularly set aside a date night once a week or once a month. Right now, I wish I was one of them. I mean, we’re still trying to go out to celebrate my birthday. And that was a month ago.

What about you? Do you have a regular date night? How often? How do you make it work? (Please tell me I don’t have to wait until the kids are grown.)

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3 thoughts on “Date Nights

  • May 19, 2010 at 6:48 am

    >I hope that you do find some time soon to talk and connect with your husband. However, I think that we need to find a way to get along with out date nights. I am unpopular with this opinion, but I believe what makes a marriage is the work and commitment and not the leisure. I think our society has decided that married people must "date" and not just that, they must date in a certain way. I just think it is a fad.

  • May 19, 2010 at 10:24 am

    >Hi Candee –

    When my husband was alive, we'd do things spur of the moment. We didn't have kids at home, so it was more a matter of work commitments getting in the way.

    Since he traveled to customer locations, I'd sometimes go with him. He'd finish his service call, while I read or worked in the car. Then, we'd explore the area and putter around antique shops. They're some of my fondest memories.

    Susan 🙂

  • May 19, 2010 at 1:19 pm


    Since our hubby's should be our biggest priorities, I make sure its the first thing I schedule in our daily calendar. The time spent with him filters down to the way we treat our kids and others because we don't resent the fact that we don't have time for one another. Its so easy to sacrifice that time for others but it should be the other way around.

    Love and Hugs ~ Kat

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