What do you do with news you didn’t expect? I’ve learned it all depends on what kind of news it is. (Since good news is much easier to accept than bad news.) But it’s also important to have a strong foundation for life since the stability of family and faith keep the boat from rocking too much.
 
On Thursday, I had a meeting with my daughter’s educational team to discuss her autistic-like behaviors. The onset of puberty and the resulting hormonal roller-coaster have magnified both the ups and the downs. So, after a CdLS research study strongly recommended further evaluations, we asked the school to take a closer look. I hoped to gain a better understanding of how her mind works and discover strategies to help with the issues at home.
 
Which brought us to Thursday. As I walked into the school to find out what they had to say, I braced myself for the addition of another label. Austism Spectrum Disorder. At least it would open avenues of understanding and move us toward a more peaceful home.
 
What did I get? Nothing. (At least nothing really helpful in my opinion.) While she certainly has behaviors that mimic those of autism, she is able to turn them “off” and function socially at school. Kids with “real” autism act the same everywhere. The team’s conclusion? It must all be part of her CdLS issues and we’ll continue her current education plan.
 
Best of luck at home, Mom.
 
It’ll take time for me to figure out what this means for our family. In the meantime, I’m a little stunned. And praying for wisdom and patience to handle the years ahead.
 
What about you? Have you had to process any difficult news lately? How long did it take? What helped the most?
Processing Difficult News
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5 thoughts on “Processing Difficult News

  • January 8, 2011 at 8:05 am
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    >Candee,
    Your consternation and pain tug at our hearts–and we pray for grace and guidance to embrace you! Thank you for the transparent heart sharing.

  • January 8, 2011 at 8:07 pm
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    >Hi Candee –

    How frustrating for you! Has she been evaluated for dyslexia and ADHD?

    Praying you'll soon get the answers you need.

    Blessings,
    Susan 🙂

  • January 18, 2011 at 4:56 pm
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    >I went through something similar with my daughter, only the diagnoses varied greatly from doctor to doctor. Probably the greatest challenge we ever went through as parents. I don't know why these things happen to our precious children, but it drove me to my knees and I became a prayer warrior, not just for her, but for others. Even with prayer, there were no instant answers; we learned to take one day at a time. I will pray for your daughter and your whole family, Candee.

  • January 21, 2011 at 10:58 pm
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    >My heart goes out to your frustrations, Candee. Just as you think you're turning the corner and reaching an aha-moment the wind blows out of your sails and stuck right back at square one.

    I can sympathize. Our daughter has ADHD. She was great a school, but watch out homelife! Light does shine at the end of the tunnel though. She's in college now and has learned to deal with her brain wiring.

    All goes to show, God is good and in charge : )

    Stay strong and you're in my prayers!

  • February 11, 2011 at 4:59 am
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    >Wonderful blog you have! Keep up the work!

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