What do you do with news you didn’t expect? I’ve learned it all depends on what kind of news it is. (Since good news is much easier to accept than bad news.) But it’s also important to have a strong foundation for life since the stability of family and faith keep the boat from rocking too much.
On Thursday, I had a meeting with my daughter’s educational team to discuss her autistic-like behaviors. The onset of puberty and the resulting hormonal roller-coaster have magnified both the ups and the downs. So, after a CdLS research study strongly recommended further evaluations, we asked the school to take a closer look. I hoped to gain a better understanding of how her mind works and discover strategies to help with the issues at home.
Which brought us to Thursday. As I walked into the school to find out what they had to say, I braced myself for the addition of another label. Austism Spectrum Disorder. At least it would open avenues of understanding and move us toward a more peaceful home.
What did I get? Nothing. (At least nothing really helpful in my opinion.) While she certainly has behaviors that mimic those of autism, she is able to turn them “off” and function socially at school. Kids with “real” autism act the same everywhere. The team’s conclusion? It must all be part of her CdLS issues and we’ll continue her current education plan.
Best of luck at home, Mom.
It’ll take time for me to figure out what this means for our family. In the meantime, I’m a little stunned. And praying for wisdom and patience to handle the years ahead.
What about you? Have you had to process any difficult news lately? How long did it take? What helped the most?