Walking in Another Person’s Shoes

Walking in Another Person’s Shoes

In the past month, I’ve taken two trips to the Glen Eyrie Castle in the Garden of the Gods near Colorado Springs. (Lucky me!) Each time, I slept in a very different room–on purpose–because I wanted to spend my time walking in another person’s shoes. During the first trip, I had the “honeymoon suite” at the top of the tower. A gigantic room that dwarfed the king sized bed and left a vast amount of

We Are Better Together

We Are Better Together

There’s just something magical that happens when a group of writers spend time together. Whether it’s at a castle (like I am right now, lucky me!) or a local meeting or a larger conference, fill a room with creative people and suddenly two plus two equals five or more. Why? Because we are better together. For one, there’s freedom when we rub shoulders with others who speak our language. No longer do we have to

Finding Like-Minded Friendships

Last month, I had two unique experiences where I was surrounded by people walking in my shoes. The first was a regional CdLS gathering for families sharing the common experience of raising a child/adult with Cornelia de Lange Syndrome. The second was less than a week later at the national American Christian Fiction Writers Conference where hundreds of writers, editors, agents, and other publishing people gathered to learn, network, and celebrate accomplishments. In both places,

Quality Care

Troubles seem to plague our lives when we least expect them, and we’re thankful for those who help us through the rough times. But when our friends are on the receiving end of difficult times, what can we do that will make a difference? Here’s a short list of things that help. Pray. For wisdom, strength, healing, financial blessing, peace, comfort, and deeper faith. Never underestimate the power of prayer. Call and let them know you

What A Friend

There’s a powerful story of friendship in the Bible that gives us a glimpse into the humanity of Jesus. It’s the story of three siblings who lived in a little town called Bethany just two miles away from Jerusalem. At some point in Jesus’ ministry, He was in a certain village and a woman named Martha welcomed Him into her house. While Martha was busy being a hostess, her sister, Mary, sat at Jesus’ feet and listened

Healthy Connections

We were made for relationships, both vertical and horizontal. God placed a longing deep within our hearts that burns for more than this world can offer this side of heaven. A longing only he can satisfy. But we were also created for relationships with other people. Marriage. Family. Neighbors. Friends. After all, “God sets the lonely in families.” (Psalm 68:6 NIV) Why? Because he knows we need people. To keep us from being self-centered by making us

Faithful Wounds

“Faithful are the wounds of a friend, But the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.” ~ Proverbs 27:6 (NKJV) Let’s be honest for a moment. Have you ever found yourself going one direction in life only to have someone tell you you’re headed the wrong way? I’m not talking about those people who seek out reasons to knock you down for their own sadistic pleasure or to make themselves appear better. I’m thinking of true friends who

What Not To Say

Imagine one of your friends has just received devastating and life-changing news. A lost job. A spouse walking out after 15 years. A cancer diagnosis. A problem appearing on a prenatal ultrasound. How do you show sympathy and support while encouraging them to face an uncertain future with courage? What do you say? Or rather, what do you not say? I’m reminded of a story in the Bible about a man who faced unimaginable loss in

Making Friends

Some people can walk into a room full of strangers and make at least five new friends within the hour. Growing up, I wasn’t one of them. Call it being introverted or shy or insecure, but I was content to watch the action from the sidelines. Then came college. Somehow as I packed my bags to move halfway across the country, I realized that no one in Tulsa, Oklahoma knew me. I would be starting over

Friends Or Rivals

Frenemy. An enemy disguised as a friend. Or a partner who is also a competitor or rival. What do you do when your friend is in line for the same position or award as you are? Conflicted emotions are only part of the story. If I come out on top, I want to celebrate … with my friends … but one of those friends is also disappointed and might only pretend to be happy for me. If my friend is honored,